Getting fired can be a true test of self-esteem. If you're like me, you probably have a harder time bouncing back from this sort of rejection compared to other people you know. I take my work very seriously, and I feel like the quality of work I produce is a direct reflection of my value as an employee. I'm a perfectionist. It's a blessing and a curse.
A bad job experience feels a lot like a bad breakup; You question your past decisions, you doubt the things you used to feel so sure about, and you wonder where you may have went wrong. But like a bad breakup, the shock, confusion and disappointment of being fired is only temporary. It's not the end of the world; It's just the end of a chapter.
Take the time you need to vent, wallow, and eat/sleep/binge-watch your sadness away. Then, take a breath, toss the takeout trash and ditch the PJs for some *real* pants (yes, yoga pants count).
These affirmations will help to cushion the emotional blow that may follow a sour exit from a job. They'll also add a necessary dose of positivity and self-love to your job transition process, ensuring you start your next experience feeling fresh and new.
Read these affirmations to yourself, either silently or aloud, as many times a day as you see fit. Remember to share your favorite so that you can help other women get through this tough process, too.
I have value, even if not everyone sees it
Remember that employment (and unemployment) are part of business – they aren't personal. While being fired can feel like a criticism of your skills, knowledge or character, it's not much more than a housekeeping task for a company's HR department and upper management. There are also *so* many factors – besides your skills, knowledge and character – that influence employment decisions. Maybe they can't pay you what you deserve. Maybe they can't dedicate the resources to train you. Maybe, even, you're overqualified. Try your best to see the work world for the big picture it is, and focus on finding where you truly fit within it.
I have weaknesses, but I am not weak
The downtime between jobs provides ample opportunity to look back on your last experience and assess your good *and* bad moments. Did you finish projects on schedule? Did you butt heads with your coworkers? Did you ask questions when you needed help? You'll probably start to notice some trends in your work behavior. Maybe you rock at workplace politics, but your time management skills could use some work. Or maybe you're a natural born leader, but you have a tough time delegating tasks.
Being honest with yourself about your weaknesses and being proud of your strengths will help you to balance them more efficiently moving forward. It'll also teach you to view yourself as a whole person – one who *isn't* defined solely by mistakes.
I don't have to go through this alone
The most rewarding habit change I've ever made happened when I stopped trying to be my own support system and started reaching out to others to help me navigate life's ups and downs.
It's completely understandable that you may want to hide away under a blanket fort and have a pity party after you get fired. But even though you may want to be alone, don't feel like you *have* to be alone. Reach out to friends and family who know what you're going through and can lend an ear (You might be surprised how many of them have similar stories to tell).
What was your worst job experience? Share your thoughts in the comments or tweet me about this post!